A look around, and you realize the world has suddenly become a place where people are there only to fight and argue with each other, be judgmental, and overall negative. You see how people on social media and in real life try to force their opinion on others while always criticizing them. It’s like we’ve all witnessed people breaking into huge fights over social media and a sudden growth of intolerance among people.
However, when we think about people bad-mouthing others or making them feel inferior, we realize, those, with an educated mindset, seldom respond to whatever people say to them. You might often think how people can be so calm and wise to never get bothered by what people think about them and how they just keep on being their amazing selves. Here are a few reasons shared by some of the most mentally strong and stable people, about why they don’t respond to hateful slurs.
Silence Is Indeed The Best Answer:
Most people often seem to be more interested in pinpointing what you’re doing wrong and how you need to change things. However, there also are individuals who choose to turn a deaf ear towards such negativity. Why? Because they believe people are always on the lookout to find a reason through which they can feel better by giving their insecurities a voice. Such people can never be happy with your success or achievement because they, themselves, were unable to be at your level or have faced failure, at some point, when you didn’t. To be honest, it isn’t even their fault that they are never happy with what you achieve, so it’s best to leave them be. Are you aware of how people laughed at Edison’s initial phonograph invention? Had he paid any attention to their negativity, he wouldn’t have been able to come up with any of his breakthroughs and wouldnt have gotten so many inventions patented to his name. Whatever good or bad you do, people will judge you and not responding to their pessimism will save your time and energy which you can use elsewhere.
Because It’s Just Their Opinion:
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, so, if someone criticizes you it’s what they believe or how they perceive things. You can’t really change that, can you? People who are emotionally and mentally strong don’t take anything as an insult because it’s just someone’s opinion and it can be good or bad. Just like you would be happy to receive positive feedback, overthinking about people’s negative remarks will only make things harder for you. Focus on people who are kind with their words, as for criticism, you should handle that gracefully. The thought process of negative people who are always criticizing others is mostly irrational and illogical, and responding to such unreasonable opinion and behavior will only lead to distracting you from acheiving your ultimate goals in life.
They Win With Goodness:
While some people’s hobby is to spew hatred and create discomfort in the lives of others, there are also people who respond to their unreasonable attitude with generosity. They do so because they want to end complexity in their’s and the toxic individual’s life. The more you let hatred grow, the more you complicate your life. Your goodness might neutralize their obnoxiousness and force them to change their hateful opinion about you.
Their Health And Happiness Surpasses All:
You can’t always battle the negative impact of people’s unconstructive tirades. But, for people, who want to perform well in their lives and live happily, their physical, mental and emotional well-being is of crucial importance. We know how vocal slurs can leave a lasting impression on our minds and personalities causing people to be stressed, depressed and anxious but it only makes one vulnerable to a number of health risks. Depression and stress can cause irreversible damage to a person’s personality, affecting his/hers performance and happiness. If you’ve noticed people who rarely respond to affronts are relatively happier and healthier in life as compared to those who always end up in an argument with their haters. You should remember that while you may not have control over people’s opinion, you have control over your own emotions and you can eliminate forces that strive hard to rob you off of your peace of mind, joy and success. If your happiness and sadness are based on the opinions of others then you can never be satisfied or let alone, be happy with what you have.
They Look For Solutions:
We are not here to please everyone; you can never be good or bad enough for someone. People with mental and emotional strength don’t drag themselves into problems, they look for solutions. Interacting with discouraging people and putting all your attention to their words and actions will only give that hatred fillied individual more power over you which in turn creates hurdles for you. If you want to improve your performance and bring peace to your life, your main focus shouldn’t be on what they say, just find a solution to handle them in a dignified manner.
The only person, who should be making any decisions for your life, should be you. It’s never wise to react to an insult and the wisest way to respond to something negative is to simply ignore it. People who make you feel bad about yourself are just people like you and what they think and say is not a word of God, so in this case, ignorance certainly is bliss.
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