Emotional intelligence is a basis requirement for success. It doesn’t offer the same results as IQ, and that was why when observed, it became the quality that distinguished the performance of those with an average IQ and those with the highest IQs. Emotional intelligence is a combination of two skills—personal and social competence—that brings about excellent results for success.
This soft skill, although so important to personal and professional success, has failed to be discussed appropriately and expansively. The results it provides are essential to adapting and thriving critically in life. Here are some things that cause the success of emotionally intelligent people.
1. They can manage healthy relationships.
Managing healthy relationships means that you can remain positive and calm regardless of the situation you are in. During setbacks or emotional outbursts from the person you are dealing with, you do not react but are understanding that there is a reason for such negative emotions. Emotionally intelligent people can relate with other people’s challenges and upheavals and see beyond their present state. Thus, they can make the best out of whatever relationship they are in.
2. They are curious about the way others approach their lives.
They want to know why people live the way they do. Learning is important to an emotionally intelligent person. That is why they would go out of their way to meet new people and try to spark something interesting from a random discussion.
3. They want to experience the moment.
To an emotionally intelligent person there is nothing to live for in the past. What has happened before is gone and even the future is a dream. They do well to focus on the present and how they can manage their present situations positively.
4. They are calm during tough situations.
While others panic and fret when faced with crisis, the emotionally intelligent person is balanced, confident and assured. They can manage tough situations because they demonstrate a leadership attitude of being confident. Thus they do not display a sense of insecurity or impulsiveness when pushed to take charge of a situation.
5. They can understand other people’s emotion.
Emotionally intelligent people are active listeners and observers. They are not simply passive but have an understanding of different personality types. With such knowledge they can understand why people act the way they do.
6. They focus on personal development.
They know that they are not a finished product. They want to constantly improve every facet of their lives whether it is their career, relationships or character. Emotionally intelligent people know the reason why they have to make continuous progress and never be stagnated.
7. They are self aware.
They know their strengths and flaws and how to manage them both to become excellent at what they love doing. Not all things will make you great or are suitable for you; emotionally intelligent are focused on tiny bits of their lives that need to be polished and improved.
8. They are not distracted by external influences.
It is not as if emotionally intelligent people are not attentive to what is said or done in their environment, whether from their peers, friends or relatives. Rather, listening to these things doesn’t define what actions they will take because they will ultimately search for purpose, solutions and consolidations from within.
9. They are emotionally tuned to everyone.
You can relate with people’s setbacks and you are deeply concerned about their problems or challenges. Even if they haven’t experienced such difficulties, they are not emotionally distant. They can perceive and understand other people’s struggles.
10. They can communicate their emotions.
They do not hold back or store any negative emotion. They are quick to channel how and what they feel to other people. Thus they are able to handle issues head on without giving a cause for delay or allowing such issues to linger on.
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