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Communication, Happiness

Why Aren’t You Happy? Because You Haven’t Been Asking The Right Questions

Written by Casey Imafidon
Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

What really makes you happy? When you are put on the spot and questioned about your happiness, what answers will you give? Happiness is not a destination or a thing, neither is it a substance or an item, rather it is a mindset and an outlook. If you think deeper or ponder on certain subjects, you will find out that being happy is not so farfetched.

After all, the mind is great at wandering for answers that will supply the body with the energy it needs to keep going. To dig deeper and discover what makes you happy and excited, you should ask yourself the following questions:

What am I most grateful about in my life right now?

Happiness can be born out of contentment and satisfaction. And while many do not see it this way, but are interested in hunting rather than appreciating what they have, you should understand what place gratitude has in your life.

Be grateful and appreciate the feeling of satisfaction that comes with the things you currently have. Is it a decent family? Is it a great career? Is it an assurance of new beginnings or great health? Is it a new environment or a new destination? There is always something to be thankful for and you should start asking yourself what it is.

Who do you most connect with, and why?

This question is centered on who you love and why you love them. Important relationships define our happiness, as we are social creatures and either want to be accepted or to accept others. Possibly, you are not getting the love you deserve or believe you deserve more. However, your family, friends, or loved ones will always provide you the options for you to answer this question.

If joy became a currency, what career or job do you think would make you wealthy?

Your job satisfaction has a way of contributing to your happiness. But most times many of us seek security and survival rather than aiming for what profession excites us. If you had to make a choice and pick, what occupation would you do for the joy and excitement it affords you?

What I am committed to in my life right now, and why?

In the long run, what we believe in defines what we are committed to or what will be taking up most of our time and energy. Answering or asking yourself this question makes you realize or mirror what you believe in. Are you committed to your marriage, relationships, career or education, religion, or social interests? Why are you committed to these? What do you hope to gain from being committed to any of these things?

What do I admire in others?

What draws you to others and makes you interested in them. This question mirrors you to yourself, as you are able to realize what your values and personal motivation is. When you learn what you find intriguing and interesting in others, you can find ways to apply such things in your life. When you these, you will be able to find greater happiness in what you do.

What motivates you, fear or passion?

At the end of the day, only two emotions define your every action — love or fear. Fear drives negative factors, such as focusing on what’s wrong, anger, guilt, shame, and resentment. Passion drives positive factors, such as gratitude, optimism, empowerment, and creativity.

With passion, you want to contribute and make the world better. Know what your motivation is and try to start every day with a task or project that is triggered by your passion rather than your fear.

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