Fear is a valuable thing. It keeps people safe and encourages caution when caution is due. But Fear can also be a limiting factor because not everything you’re afraid of should really be feared.
Have you ever been faced with a situation where you were afraid of making a decision, making a change or taking a risk?
Did you end up taking that risk or making that decision? Or, did you just stay put and left things as they were? If you did, are you happy with how things have turned out?
It’s in our nature to like feeling safe–to be in comfort and away from danger. This has always been the case since the beginning of time, when the first humans only knew how to prioritize survival. Even today, many still choose to play it safe and avoid taking risks or taking leaps of faith when it comes to their choices in life.
The Realist and the Dreamer
To put it simply, there are two kinds of people: the realists and the dreamers. The realists are the logical and cautious type of individuals who always think and weigh out the pros and cons before making any decisions–especially the big, life changing ones. Whether it was deciding on what to major in at University, what career path to take, whether or not to purchase that house or car, to go on that holiday, or to splurge on that new watch, the realist thinks long and hard before making a decision, if they even decide. Realists stick to the “what’s next?” plan for the future and may not abstractly consider different possibilities for where life can lead. This is usually because of the confidence they have already devoted to an accepted plan.
Realists have dreams too, but these are more so rooted in ambition, drive and determination. They are goals that have been enumerated for some time. Realists understand that progress requires more than ambition and drive, but also, connections. They feel that life is never worry-free because of survival, responsibility and…paying a rent or a mortgage. As a result, they tend to make safe choices and stick to their comfort of knowing what’s best for themselves.
Now let’s look at the dreamers. The dreamers are well, dreamers. They have big lofty ambitions, are risk takers, sometimes over impulsive, but they often always challenge the norms of society and dare to think outside the box. This is not to say that they do not have plans or a path that they want to follow. But they are more likely to change the course of their journey through time, experience and by following their heart.
Dreamers derive their inspiration from within. No one else’s perspectives weigh in greatly enough to shift a dreamer’s drive. Dreamers don’t allow their fears to consume them. They may fail from time to time, but they never give up on life or love.
Embrace Fear
So which of the two do you think you are? And is one better than the other? In life, balance is always key. I’m sure you would have heard the saying: “everything in moderation”. Likewise, being a realist isn’t any better than being a dreamer. Both come with their challenges. But what I do know, is that no matter where you are in life, fear should always be seen as a way of pushing you towards becoming a better you.
Stepping outside of your comfort zone is a type of fear that should be embraced. If you see yourself as a dreamer, then great! Chances are, stepping out of your comfort zone isn’t new to you. Whether it’s deciding to drop out of University to start your own business, moving to a new country on your own, taking that step to ask someone out on a date despite thinking they’re way out of your league, or deciding to quit your high paying job of 10 years to become a DJ. You chose to do that because you knew that you would most likely regret the ‘what ifs’ more than the mistakes (if any) of those decisions.
But if you’ve always been more of a cautious individual (nearing towards being a realist), then I hope you’ll give more thought to embracing the act of stepping out more! Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to start making hasty or bold decisions such as the ones mentioned. It just means opening your mind to the acceptance that stepping out of your comfort zone isn’t a bad thing, it’s not something to be hesitant or afraid of.
Managing Fear
In times of stress or discomfort, remember that some of the best things happen when you’re afraid or put in an uncomfortable situation. These experiences can both challenge you and help you grow. Commit to giving the situation a try with your best effort, and keep expectations low to reduce additional pressure. Living outside of one’s comfort zone is by definition uncomfortable. Therefore, the best habit you can foster within yourself is the practice of becoming familiar with discomfort.
You may be at a crossroad in life and feeling undecided about something, or you may feel like you’re not happy with where you’re at right now. It could be a job that you’re not happy with, a relationship you’re not happy in, or even just knowing that you’re too comfortable with where you’re at that you don’t feel challenged. All of this uncertainty can be traced back to your intentions. What is it that you want? What is it that you’re looking for?
So, What Are You Looking For?
We have different goals, dreams, and aspirations, but they all lead to the same outcome – becoming better than what we were before. Whether it’s in terms of happiness, wealth, love etc.
So why is it that some of us have a harder time moving ahead?
To break free from our limitations, we’ve got to take a step back and gain a fresh perspective on just what limitations really are. On the surface, limitations are things that prevent you from doing something, but if you dig deeper, you’ll find that limitations are the things that keep you constrained inside a loop.
They keep you stuck facing the same problems, having the same choices, and taking the same actions over and over, and over again. Limitations define your current circumstances, which also means that they defines the quality of your life.
If you want to improve the quality of your life, then you’ve got to be able to break free from the limitations that keep you living the same loop everyday, month, and year.
Your reality is derived from your perception.
It’s not reality that’s important, but rather, how you see it. Being able to control how you look at things is the key to breaking free, and creating the success that you want. Shaping your perception is so powerful that just a small change in perspective can completely change everything–including your motivation, outlook, and self esteem!
So all limitations really start from your mind.
This is good news because it means you can learn how to take control of your limitations, and push out of your current circumstances to get back on track with bettering yourself.
At Lifehack, we’re dedicated to helping you find the ideal solutions to your problems, and with over 15 years of experience in coaching, we have condensed our knowledge and practices into a highly effective transformational model that you can use to not only help you break free of your limitations, but to also help you find new and bigger meaning to your life.
The Breakthrough Framework
Stepping out of your comfort zone isn’t always the easiest, but we’re here to make it easier for you to realize your true potential. This is why I want to introduce the Breakthrough Framework.
It is a 4 step journey that provides an overall paradigm shift for you to turn any limitation you may be having, into an opportunity that is achievable.
By going through each of this 4 step journey, you’ll be able to transform your mind and actions towards the change that is needed to achieve your ultimate goals, and truly break free from your limitations.
During each step of your journey, you will utilize the 7 Cornerstone Skills to help you through your transformation. The 7 Cornerstone Skills will help to magnify your efforts and actions, allowing you to grasp your opportunities quicker and instill the changes permanently.
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