The excitement of having a child could wane when you are dealt with a child who breaks and stretches you. However, no one can ignore that there is beauty in being a parent. Whether you are pushed or not, every part of parenthood has to be accepted and appreciated! These are some things parents of difficult kids will understand.
They always feel responsible for the situation
They always believe they are at fault for their children being difficult. No matter how light people might try to paint the picture of their children’s troublesome nature, they know that it is something they will forever be stuck with. They think no one out there can understand their struggle except them.
They will always receive advice from strangers
People are never short of advice for how they need to raise their kids. Most times, such advice is stern and solemn like, “Your child needs a really good spanking, so that they can learn what respect means.” It’s almost as if these people giving advice think you really do not know how to fulfill your job of parenting.
They are always your kids
It doesn’t matter how difficult they are, or how upbeat and tense they make you feel, they are still your kids. You will treat them the same way that other simple and respectful kids are treated. They are your responsibility, your excitement, and (sometimes) your pain, but you love them just the way they are.
They receive sympathetic comments and glances
The truth is some people actually understand what you are going through. They have difficult children too. You’re not alone. They understand the challenge, terror, and pain your children may be causing you. They will be happy to give you a sad smile, or just scoff and look away while you continue to deal with the difficulties of making your child listen.
They understand the lines of success and failures
It is a success to be a parent, whether your kids are difficult or not. However, when you hear others term their roles as successful you feel your’s is more of a mixed blend. It is tough because parents of difficult kids deal more with failures of their children, rather than enjoying the success of being a parent. You have to get used to embracing failure as much as you embrace success.
They learn every day
No parent learns harder or tougher than a parent with a difficult child. They are stuck with the attitude of always trying. They can’t quit. They just have to keep on going at their roles, whether it is in teaching, showing love, guiding, offering attention, and more. It is more of a continuous journey that doesn’t seem to end.
They will always compare themselves to others
It is hard not to envy other parents who have easy-going children. You wish your children were just like their’s. Parents of difficult children can get lost in their emotions. They might wish and hope that they were not in such shoes. Or they might want to be placed in a different and more positive situation instead.
They are afraid of the future
They may not worry as much of the present, as they will of the future. They can handle the present the best way they can, but what about the future? They seem to ask a lot of questions regarding the future of their kids. They wonder, “What will become of their future?” In fact, they constantly live in dread of what their kids may turn out to be.
At the end of the day, being a parent is a proud thing. Difficult kids could become resolute, resilient, and determined. These are attitudes that could serve as strengths, when striving for success. It is important for us all to adjust our thinking and perception of difficult children. The world is a blend of all sorts, and they only add to this blend.
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