A guarded heart is one that has been through one traumatic
experience after another, leaving a person unable to open up to new friends and loved ones easily. However, this doesn't mean it's completely impossible. Those of us with guarded hearts are often incredibly caring individuals who have been hurt in the past and, because of this, will do their best to keep their shields up around most people. If you find yourself dating someone with a guarded heart, understand that:
1. We treasure alone time
People with guarded hears trust themselves more than any other person on the planet. Because of this, we enjoy being
alone much more than others may. Meeting new people is a draining process because we have to keep our guard up at all times until we are sure we can trust somebody. When dating someone with a guarded heart, understand they would rather spend a quiet night on the couch with you than out with a group of friends.
2. We take it slow
Since it's incredibly hard for us to trust anyone, we don't dive into relationships head first. In fact, we're often scared when we find ourselves liking somebody enough to possibly begin a
relationship with them. Unfortunately, having been hurt in the past has led us to be untrusting of ourselves, and we will always second guess ourselves when start to be attracted to a certain someone. But if you don't mind wading into a relationship with us, it will show you're able to accommodate to our needs.
3. We still fall easily
Just because we take it slow doesn't mean we don't fall easily. It's what got us in trouble in the first place. Those of us with guarded hearts have most likely fallen
in love too quickly in the past and ended up getting hurt. However, despite having learned from our bad experience, it's in our nature to fall for anyone who treats us well from the get-go. Of course, this leads to conflicting feelings of whether or not we can trust the person we're currently interested in.
4. We have trust issues
It should be clear by now that people with guarded hearts have a tough time trusting others. If you're dating someone with a guarded heart, it can be hard not to take this personally. But if you constantly show your mate you can be trusted, and your intentions are genuine, they will slowly but surely open their hearts to you.
5. We listen more than we talk
Having a guarded heart means we're afraid to air out our
business to just anyone. But we do listen to everything those close to us say. Because we've learned it's hard to trust others, we listen intently to what you're saying, at times looking for reasons to keep our guard up. If you notice us being quiet during a date, we just want to get to know you before opening up about ourselves.
6. We're sometimes mysterious
Along with being rather quiet, we might be hesitant to text or call you after a date, and probably come off as being distant. This doesn't mean we're not interested in you. In fact, it may be the exact opposite. Like I said, we're afraid to let others in, especially if we see ourselves falling for them easily. We understand we're sending mixed signals by being mysteriously distant, but we have to look out for ourselves before we pay attention to social dating conventions.
7. We love and hate to show affection
Just like how we fall easily but don't want to, we often move too fast when we want to take it slow. This may have been part of our problem in the past: we fell in
love too quickly, moved too fast emotionally and physically, and ended up absolutely heartbroken when the relationship came to an abrupt end. However, if you take it slow with us, we're bound to shower you with love and affection when we're ready.
8. We truly care about those we let into our lives
If we've let you into our lives, you can be sure we truly care about you. This should be an incredible compliment to those who strive to be as genuine and trustworthy as possible. When we let you in, you'll find the relationship to become much more smooth, and for us to be much more open with our feelings. Once this happens, be prepared for a long-lasting relationship full of love and trust.
