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12 Things Unemotional Women Understand

Written by Amy Johnson
Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

Are you an unemotional woman? Many unemotional women go through life wondering why they do not feel more sensitive and emotional, but for some this is totally normal. It isn’t strange or a sign of not being well-adjusted — it is simply a different way of dealing with your feelings.

However, there are ups and downs to being unemotional. Check out the following 12 things that all unemotional women will understand.

1. You wish you were better at comforting others.

You always feel awkward whenever you are supposed to be comforting someone. You genuinely sympathise with them and you wish you could cheer them up, but you never know what to say to make things better.

2. You avoid other people when you’re upset.

You always try to distance yourself from others if you are feeling upset. You really struggle to open up to others, and you don’t want them to feel awkward. You know many women find comfort in being around others when something is bothering them, but you just want to hide until you feel better.

3. You are often misinterpreted as being socially awkward.

You don’t have a problem talking to other people, but people always mistake you for being uncomfortable in social situations. You actually like talking to other people and making friends, but conversations rarely rile you up — you’re happy enough to listen to the others share their feelings.

4. You don’t cry at movies. (But they still move you.)

You don’t cry during sad movies — but you still love watching them. Other people think it is strange that you don’t start to blub during Marley and Me, but you secretly find them weird for crying over something that isn’t real.

5. Confessions of the heart make you cringe.

Emotional declarations of love and commitment make you feel nauseous. You struggle to express your own emotions, so you don’t know how to reply to someone proclaiming their love.

6. You struggle with romantic relationships.

You regularly get crushes on people and you’ve had romantic relationships in the past, but your lack of emotions often gets in the way of a relationship forming. You struggle to communicate your feelings well, and you’ve always envied people who are totally comfortable discussing their thoughts.

7. You have been jokingly called ‘heartless’.

Your friends regularly call you heartless as a joke because you don’t cry at movies and you struggle to discuss your feelings. You actually have a lot of love to give, so you never take the jokes to heart.

8. Your friends come to you if they need to calm down.

Your friends come to you whenever they need to get some perspective and calm down. You understand why they are upset, but you offer a calm, rational attitude that helps your friends to let go of negative emotions.

9. You find forming bonds with others difficult.

A big part of bonding is opening up to each other and discussing difficult emotions. This makes it hard for you to form new friendships, but it also means you treasure the friendships that you have.

10. You are always blunt with others.

You are blunt with your loved ones and proud of it. The people you care about deserve your honesty, and you always deliver.

11. You have found creative ways to express your emotions.

Many unemotional people express their emotions through another activity, such as kick-boxing, keeping a journal or painting. You let your emotion out with other outlets, which helps you to deal effectively with any negative emotions that you are feeling.

12. You can get emotional — when it comes to your loved ones.

You love your friends and family just as much as any emotional person would. You can’t help being unemotional, but it would never stop you from caring about your loved ones. You never want to see them hurt or upset, and they understand and love you for this.