OK! So you aren’t a bold visionary like Buffett or Branson, but that doesn’t mean you can’t aim to be successful. For every individual out there, success is defined differently: some people crave glory, power and money; others simply crave friendships, connections, and romance; and for some, success may be doing mundane chores of their house.
Just because you aren’t a big shot among your peers, doesn’t mean you can’t aim to be one. You will see plenty of tips and techniques that will take you down the road of success; however, you will not be able to travel on that road unless you believe in success for yourself. To be successful you need to avoid all those negative thoughts that are killing your drive. All such thoughts are generated by negative memories of previous failures, disappointment, humiliation, embarrassment and so on that remain alive and well in your unconscious mind.
To believe in success for yourself, you need to let go of these deadly thoughts.
1. “I have not been provided with plenty of opportunities.”
It’s a cruel selfish world out there, and you aren’t given opportunities. But here’s the deal: wake up! Opportunities are meant to be taken NOT given. You don’t need to wait for someone to give you an opportunity; you have to step out and take opportunities. The only thing that is holding you back is yourself. There are several tools, like social media, that will connect you directly with people to whom you can pitch in your ideas.
2. “I would pay the price if I knew it would be worth it.”
Success is earned; you do not set the reward prior to hard work. It will blur your motivation, and dampen your determination. All successful people have earned their success; they have worked at it and pursued it regardless of the pay-offs they will get. This is the reason that hard working successful people are getting more pay and frequent promotions.
3. “I am always held back by other people.”
Other people have gotten away with the opportunity you deserved; your parents don’t want you going into a certain field; your co-worker wasn’t as invested in the pitch as you. You have had little or no success because people have a habit of screwing you over. But here’s the thing: you can’t control other people and their actions; you can only control yourself and the way you think. Own up to mistakes that may have been caused by other people, and learn from them. Successful people are successful because they have learned from their mistakes.
4. “I don’t have the time.”
If you don’t have the time, make time for your efforts. Do your tasks quickly and efficiently. For success, remember that time is money; you should be in control of time rather than time taking control of you.
5. “I am neither especially clever nor especially gifted”
Thinking among these lines will give you self esteem issues. Don’t compare yourself to others; they will possess talents you have, but you will also possess talents that they don’t have. You should, however, be determined to learn new skills, and believe in being persistent.
6. “I am going to fail. Why bother?”
Already proclaiming yourself a failure will kill your motivation and leave no room for the hard work. You should instead be your own motivation that fuels your drive for success.
7. “I am a genius.”
There is a thin line between being confident and over-confident. If you think you are a game changer, and people are to bow down in front of your magnificence, it’s time to give yourself a wake-up call. Thinking that you are a genius and being one are two different things. The former being an opinion, whereas the latter is result of hard work.
