Take a moment and imagine what your life would be like if you had no fear. What would you do if you knew how to overcome fear? It’s not difficult to imagine that it would alter your life significantly.
I believe that fear is the single biggest obstacle that holds people back from fulfilling their potential and becoming the best version of themselves. Fear of failure, fear of abandonment, fear of success, fear of not being good enough…
The question is, where does it come from?
Neuroscientists claim that humans are the most fearful creatures on the planet because of our ability to learn, think, and create fear in our minds. We scare ourselves by imagining the worst possible outcomes, assuming that we are protecting ourselves from imminent danger.
You make the choice to be a victim of your fear and anxiety or to push them aside and be courageous.
In this article, we’ll look into the root cause of fear and how to conquer fear to realize our potential.
What Is Fear, Really?
This acronym best reflects what fear is[1]:
Fear is an emotion created by your mind based on real or imagined threats. Fear may be completely founded in reality, or not. It may also manifest as anxiety disorders in some cases, as anxiety is based on worries or fears about the future.
These imagined scenarios of perceived threats end up feeding your fear to the point where it becomes all-consuming. Often, these scenarios never happen.
The real issue is not the fear itself, but rather how we hold it in our minds.
How to Overcome Fear
Overcoming fear may sound easier said than done. When you are in the thick of fear, it’s hard to see a way out. The good news is that, because you are the root cause of your fears, you are also the solution to them.
1. Identify Your Fears Through Writing
There are times when I’ve felt afraid but couldn’t identify why. If you keep your fears inside, you allow your mind to control how you feel.
In order to prevent this confusion from happening in the first place, identify what your fears are before moving on to learning how to deal with fear.
What makes you feel afraid?
Instead of just thinking about these things, write them down. When you write down your fears on paper and actually question them, it forces you to analyze why you are afraid. Questions are designed to trigger your fears and bring them to the surface.
This isn’t a comfortable process, but deep inner work never is. However, if you continue to keep your feelings in the dark, the scarier they will be, and the more disempowered you will become.
Once you identify the type of fear and the experience that you associate with your fears, you become armed with the power to take action to change them. Eventually, your fears become smaller and smaller, and your strength gets bigger and bigger.
As you’re identifying what your fears are, you can try Lifehack’s Free Life Assessment. It will help you identify which areas may be causing you more fear and which you can fall back on as strengths.
2. Practice Gratitude
If you want to learn how to overcome fear, gratitude is key. From personal experience, I have learned that it’s difficult to experience fear and gratitude at the same time. They are literally on opposite ends of the continuum of the human experience.
When you are experiencing difficult times in life, it’s easy to drop into fear and overwhelm. In that energetic space, it can be hard to stay grounded.
Developing a gratitude practice allows you to not drown in fear. It doesn’t mean that you won’t still feel it, but the blow will be lessened, thereby allowing you to see the brighter side of struggle.
In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their physical and mental health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships[2].
Anyone who experiences fear knows that there is almost always a story attached to whatever it is that you’re fearful of. Fear loves to hang out with your inner critic and come up with worst-case scenarios about what could happen.
Gratitude helps keep these limiting stories at bay when you’re learning how to overcome fear. When you practice gratitude, your brain shifts to what is currently working instead of what isn’t working.
The act of being fearful is a future-oriented process, while gratitude is a present-oriented one. The next time that fear tries to creep its way into your head, replace that disempowering thought with an empowering one.
You can learn more about how to replace fear based practices with more positive ones in this video:
3. Release Control
Being a control freak is how a lot of people manage their fears, or so they think. Unfortunately, control has no place on the path to learning how to overcome fear.
In actuality, all that they are doing is masking their fears by trying to control everything. If you can relate, it’s time to release control. Trust me when I say that this is a losing battle.
Fear results in controlling behavior, and when this behavior doesn’t give us the results we’re seeking, it further intensifies our fears.
In your attempt to control fear, you actually become a victim of it. This fear and control cycle leaves a lot of people feeling defeated. The reality is that there will always be things that are far beyond your control.
The only way that we can move past needing to be in control is to accept that it is not always up to us. While you may be in control of your decisions, you don’t always have control over situations that you are pushed into, nor can you control how others react.
The only thing that you have control over is your inner world and how you choose to respond to your external environment. The next time you catch yourself trying to control everything, step back and ask yourself what you are afraid of.
Start to get curious about what thoughts are generating your fear. Curiosity and fear don’t like to co-exist. Once you let go of one, you invite the other in, which will help as you learn how to get rid of fear.
True freedom comes from fully releasing control. When you are able to do this, you begin the process of releasing your fears as well.
4. Recite Positive Affirmations
Positive affirmations can be used to combat almost any negative thought pattern, which can be very helpful when you want to learn how to overcome fear. Using them to help challenge your fears can help retrain your brain and have your fears reframed as powerful statements.
Research shows that you can actually train your subconscious mind such that it will help you to attract exactly what you desire in life[3].
Instead of saying “I am afraid of doing this because I might fail,” look in the mirror and say to yourself, “I am prepared for this, I am ready, and I will not fail.”
The more you use positive affirmations, the stronger they become. The best way to cancel a negative belief is to develop its positive counterpart.
Commit to making positive affirmations a key component of your morning ritual. It literally takes one thought, repeated over and over again, to set you on the path to transforming your entire life.
Here are more positive affirmations you can try: 10 Positive Affirmations for Success that will Change your Life
5. Do One Thing Every Day That Scares You
Living in your comfort zone will get you nowhere in life, and it certainly won’t help you learn how to overcome fear. In my experience, not doing the things that scare you will only increase the likelihood that your fears will grow and inevitably take over every decision that you make.
I want to encourage you to do one thing every day that scares you. It can be something small. All that matters is that you take action. Make it a habit to get comfortable being uncomfortable.
Putting yourself in new and uncomfortable situations triggers a unique part of the brain that releases dopamine, nature’s make-you-happy chemical. Here’s the mind-blower: that unique region of the brain is only activated when you see or experience completely new things[4].
When you condition yourself to do something every day that scares you, your fear fades away, and your courage grows. Think about it…when you face your fears, how can you fear them again? Soon enough, your confidence will skyrocket.
Final Thoughts
The next time that you feel threatened by fear, I encourage you to pull upon one or more of the above strategies. Change your relationship with fear. Instead of letting it knock you down, use it as motivation to grow and achieve more.
Once you recognize that fear is not real, the obstacles that appear to stand in your way will be removed, and you will feel empowered to take action.
Your potential in life is limited by only one factor: you. Are you ready to transform fear into action?
More on How to Overcome Fear
- How to Overcome Your Irrational Fears (That Stop You from Succeeding)
- 13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride
- How to Conquer Your Fear of Change and Transform Your Life
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Reference
| [1] | ^ | Sprout Therapy: FEAR: FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL! |
| [2] | ^ | Harvard Medical School: Giving Thanks Can Make You Happier |
| [3] | ^ | Great Performers: How To Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind For Success and Happiness |
| [4] | ^ | Forbes: Why Feeling Uncomfortable Is The Key To Success |
